Why is it that when a man decides to make changes to his lifestyle in his 40’s or 50’s, people criticize him or joke about him having a mid-life crisis as if it’s a bad thing?
When a guy decides to get into better shape, drive a nice car, trade a bad relationship for one that makes him happy or any number of other things, society seems to think that’s bad.
That’s nuts. I contend that the real mid-life crisis is where he is before he undertakes the changes:
- Out of shape and unhealthy, on track for illness, disease and a very real possibility of an early death
- Putting up with an unhealthy relationship that saps every ounce of happiness and fun from his life
- Working in a job that’s not even close to what he dreamed he’d be doing with his life 20 years earlier, and is quite possibly a place he dreads going every day
To me, those things sound like much more of a crisis than grabbing the bull by the horns and making some positive changes.
If you take a step back and consider why so many people laugh at or criticize men who are having a so-called mid-life crisis, it’s pretty plain to see…
Some friends don’t want to see him succeed because it makes their own lives seem that much more miserable.
Some women don’t want to see a man “level up” for fear of losing him. Even if they don’t really want him in the first place.
That’s not to say they’re doing it on purpose. Some probably are, but a lot of them aren’t even conscious of why they feel that way, they just do.
By the time you’ve spent 40 or 50 years on this earth, you’re at best halfway to being gone. Probably closer than that, a lot closer if you haven’t been taking care of yourself.
Don’t waste the back half of your life. Take back control, make the changes you want to make and become the man you always wanted to be.
Get busy living or get busy dying.